You may believe that never arguing with each other will make your relationship strong. What usually happens though  Cheap John Hayden Hat , is because you're both human you have different needs and wants. If you never even notice, let alone discuss (argue about?) your different needs and wants you may not even realize the damage you're doing to your relationship.

That's the problem that brought Jeff to my office.

Jeff was stunned when Eileen announced that she wanted a divorce. For nine years he had considered himself a model husband, never arguing, letting her do whatever she wanted to do, and working hard to increase his income to support their lifestyle.

He begged her to reconsider and offered to seek counseling to prove he was willing to change. However  Cheap Ryan Hartman Hat , he had trouble imagining how he could do anything differently. Eileen refused to come to counseling with him because, AIf he couldn't figure it out for himself, it proved he was hopeless.

As we talked, it was clear that Jeff knew what he liked to do and how he felt about lots of things, but he had very little information about his spouse. He was puzzled about her seemingly odd priorities.

Why would she want to redecorate the living room? It seemed fine to him. Nevertheless  Cheap Brandon Saad Hat , he was fine with her repainting the room and putting in a new floor by herself. He was a little annoyed by the mess and by her being too tired for much lovemaking, but he managed.

He also admitted he was a little annoyed when Eileen attended meetings several nights a week, but he never said anything to her about it. He usually got involved in online computer exchanges with others when she was away; in fact, he got so engrossed that he would not even notice when she would come home and go to bed.

He had no idea what her meetings were about. He was surprised when I suggested that he ask her, but he agreed to experiment by doing his best to ask and to really listen to her answer. To demonstrate to her that he was listening  Cheap Artem Anisimov Hat , he was to try to restate what she said.

The next week Jeff reported that Eileen was so encouraged that she was now willing to set up a joint counseling meeting.

Jeff admitted that he wasn't particularly happy in his marriage either, but thought that was normal. Growing up with his divorced mother, who did whatever she could to make his life easier, he had never really had the opportunity to see a couple discuss differences or solve problems together.

Eileen was understandably furious at Jeff for ignoring her for so many years. She had made many attempts to tell him about what she needed, but he had never even noticed. Finally she had started attending a support group and a study group which had helped her decide to leave her joyless marriage.

However Jeff's recent attempts to listen to her made her hopeful that he could change. She was surprised to discover that Jeff had never learned the basic emotional skills that he needed to create a more satisfying relationship.


Learning life skills takes time  Cheap Richard Panik Hat , and Jeff and Eileen decided to wait six months before making a decision about whether to stay together. Jeff participated in a counseling group, and they had couples= sessions at least once a month.

Their marriage did become more satisfying, and they decided to stay together. They stayed in counseling until they mastered the art of supporting each other's growth.

Being happy together in your relationship doesn't necessarily take counseling. There is a lot you can do together to create a conscious, loving and mature life partnership. What you do need is a commitment to having the important conversations that allow you to really know each other.

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Laurie Weiss, Ph.D.  Cheap Alex DeBrincat Hat , internationally known therapist, coach and author, has been helping people create conscious, loving relationships for over 30 years. See Being Happy Together: How to Create a Fabulous Relationship With Your Life Partner in Less Than an Hour a Week at

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